We’re friends and friends are honest with each other. Most of my friends/readers, as I, are millennials. With all the foolishness that we deal with, I think its best that we stick together. Which is why I’m going to share one of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned in my life thus far. All too often, we get caught up, turned around, and frustrated over the simplest things going over someone’s head. We attempt everything in our power to understand that it can’t be that hard to comprehend. It simply can’t.
Let’s start with a simple example. Toilet paper. Over or under? It’s a debate that we’ve all faced at one point in our lives (and marriage requires this being a conversation you have prior to moving in together). Some of us are even guilty for calling friends out for the wrong placement of how their toilet paper is oriented in their bathroom.
Ok, let’s dig a little deeper. Racism. Sexism. Or any other ism you see fit to place here. Stick with me here, I promise you we aren’t going to get too deep into these. I am fully aware that my experiences with racism are rarely matched with what other people experience. Another realization that I have is that I also have become so immune to it that I often don’t even catch the subtle hints of isms that I may come across on a daily basis. Oh and believe me, I experience racism on a daily basis in some way, shape, or form.
This brings me to the lesson that has catapulted me in ways I never could’ve imagined and I’m slowly but surely blaming Disney’s Frozen for making it a worldwide phenomenon.
Right now, you’ve probably already started singing Elsa’s greatest hit and cursing me for it. My sincerest apologies, but keep reading and we’ll get it out of your head. Long before the song, I quickly started to realized that some battles aren’t worth. We are all entitled to our opinions and with social media access in the palm of our hands, it’s easy to spark annoyance amongst our peers. Each day we are faced with teetering the line of sharing our opinions in fear of what people may or may not say. Having to explain or justify our opinions for the most uninvolved reasons.
I’ve learned that it’s best to just let it go!
And I’ve got 3 tips to successfully help you follow through on doing just that as a millennial.
Share on social media accordingly
Millennials are frequently chastised for oversharing every aspect of their lives, especially our opinions. I’ll be the first to say that I’m guilty of this. You don’t have to censor yourself, but just share items of worth. A little inspiration, humor, and knowledge gets you so far in life. Let all the other stuff go. It’s not worth it and you can easily text the people who get you to share everything else. Need an example of what you shouldn’t share? This video explaining how millennials are an entitled generation posted on Ms. Bloomer’s Facebook with over 43 million views. In her defense, she did post a disclaimer that not all millennials are like this.
Don’t explain or justify yourself
You can’t escape sharing a few things that will others will read and not get. This is where you let it go and don’t offer any explanation or justification of your beliefs. Here’s the thing, we are all adults here. If someone can’t use context clues and remove themselves from their isolated bubble to see things in a different manner. Do not spend your precious time attempting to discuss the trivial issues with them. Not worth it and WE ARE ADULTS.
Remember that your experiences in life will not match others
As adults, we have the privilege of understanding that we come from different walks of life. From race, creed, religion, and sex – our life experiences vary in a number of different ways. I’ve learned that there are things that some people will not understand coming from my point of view as a black woman and that’s ok. Just like I wouldn’t understand what its like to be a white man in America. I’ve learned to let go pushing any type of agenda onto anyone because it takes more than that. It takes time, effort, openness, communication, and the privilege of having a friend who will accept you for who you are.
Any other tips that should be added? Let me know and remember to let it goooooooo!