Well it’s been fun. Time sure does fly when you’re having fun. I’m heading back to work. The struggle is real and I’m dreading thinking about leaving my sweet baby girl. Don’t get me wrong, I’m fortunate that I was able to enjoy these last 12 weeks together. It’s not as generous as some companies in the United States and definitely not like countries around the world. Going back is bittersweet and my struggle stems from 3 big components that I’m sure all moms face.
Struggle 1 – Detaching from Baby
This is my biggest struggle. All I’ve known for the last 12 weeks is being full time mom to Delilah. Every waking moment has been dedicated to her well being. It’s been amazing being with her and watching her grow, but I knew this day would come.
Detaching myself from being her everything is proving difficult, but I know that it’ll be best for the both of us. Over the last few weeks during my leave, I’ve slowly started to hand over responsibilities to David. Has this helped? I’m not sure I guess the test will be the next few weeks as Delilah acclimates to her new normal.
Struggle 2 – Childcare Woes
Sore subject for most parents and I completely understand why. Childcare is expensive. The going rates for newborns alone alarmed me as we started the search. Luckily, we worked out a way to keep our sweet girl out of daycare for a bit. Eventually, we’re going to have to really revisit this and figure out how to make this work in our favor.
Whether it’s a daycare, in home nanny, or working out a schedule with our jobs – the childcare woes are apparent. Children are expensive and you want the best for your child. At the same time, you need the best fit for your lifestyle. Schedule flexibility, proximity to home, curriculum offered, and much more go into deciding who cares for you child. On top of all these, you have to consider your budget in the long run. It’s not easy on the culture shock of being apart from your baby.
Struggle 3 – Feedings, schedules, and the coveted weekend!
For a lot of new moms, you have to think about quite a few different things when it comes to heading back to work. Breastfeeding moms have to worry about a number of different things. Can your baby take a bottle? Do you have enough backstock in pumped milk? Will you need to supplement with formula? How and where will you pump at work?
Formula feeding moms have it just as hard. Did you prepare enough bottles? Have you found the right formula for baby? Will your baby take a bottle from someone else besides you?
Working moms will have to create a schedule that works not only for baby, but any new schedule they may encounter at work. The one question any returning to work mom shares is simply, “is it the weekend yet?”
With that, I’m heading back to work and all I keep asking myself is, “is it the weekend yet?”