Living Your Best Life
2017 is all about living my best life in the most simple way possible. As I talked about in my word and mantra of the year, I am seeking to live simply and be intentional. This means following this mantra in every aspect of my life. I can honestly say that right now I’m in the place where life is supposed to guide me. My contentedness with this spot has brought a certain peace over each and everything I have done recently.
Trust me when I say, it hasn’t been the easiest path. I’ve dealt with heartaches, angry blows, and confusing moments of why do I even exist in this world. There have been times when I’ve questioned why did these turn of events happen in my life. The amount of soul searching and skills I’ve had to test in order to find a way to get myself out of these ruts has taken patience to learn over the years.
These 3 life skills that I’ve mastered have taken my happiness to new heights. They’ve contributed to really understanding that life is too short harbor ill feelings.
Skill 1 | Moving forward in your life
It’s been a long time since I looked back at different aspects of my life. What I realized a long time ago is that I can’t change any of those things. Honestly, I wouldn’t want to because they have defined the woman that I’ve become today. The fundamental aspect I’ve learned as a millennial living in the world today is that I must keep moving forward. The responsibility that I have to not only myself, but the world I want to see built around my beliefs heavily relies on me.
Skill 2 | Having a crucial conversation
Thank goodness for the nonprofit world and Girl Scouts of Northeast Texas for honing my conflict resolution skills. It was at my first full time position that I was introduced to Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High and it changed my life. I quickly learned how to navigate the rough patches of dealing with a number of different individuals thanks to this book. Lessons of preparing myself before entering an unsafe conversation, remaining calm, and being able to listen openly are just a few of the critical learning points. Each of these tools and many more have benefitted my personal and professional growth over the years. If anything buy and read the book; I can promise you that your copy will become as worn as mine has.
Skill 3 | Knowing when to say NO to maintain your best life
This is the one skill that I’m slowly working on getting better at. I’ve made progress, but it is still a difficult skill to really practice. We all get too consumed being the “yes person” in the lives of so many. The clutch player of sorts that is always willing to go above and beyond. At the end of the day, the burnout from continually being the “yes person” quickly starts to take a toll on you.
We each have to take a moment to realize that you just can’t do it all and sometimes you just need to say no. It’s healthy for your body. A simple no will save your sanity. Owning up to the fact that sometimes you just don’t want to is good to maintain balance in your life. Practice saying no with the same things and then pair it with a crucial conversation to become unstoppable.
Don’t expect to master all of these at once, take your time and play around with them. If there is one that stands out more than others make an honest effort to work on that skill. I hope that at the end of the day you can look back and be proud of the life you are living.