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A tale about a Girl and her Dad

This is a tale about a girl and her dad. Not just an ordinary tale, its more of an extraordinary tale. From the moment this dad laid his eyes on this girl he claimed she was his change of life baby. That every moment had stopped when his Tingy Wop graced the world with her presence. From a very young age, this girl was told that the world was hers for the taking if she set her mind to it. Her dad reminded her that she should see people for who they were, not the color of their skin. In the end, skin color didn’t matter at all – we all were human. He taught her valuable lessons on how to be a team player and never make herself into an open book. This dad made sure that this girl respected her elders and strived to reach any and all goals she set her mind to.

Even during those teenage years, this dad reminded his little girl of her worth. He pushed her to never settle for less that what she was worth, while at the same time instilling the strength and faith that she needed to carry on. He molded her and treated her like a princess – at the same time crafting a deep warrior to stand up for herself. The girl made some mistakes with stupid boys and her dad was always there to build her back up. He was quick to say that the guy who deserved her love would prove themselves – and didn’t hesitate to test those of their worthiness.dad - sevi - grief - happy birthday

As she got older and wiser, she beamed with pride at making her dad proud. He continued to push her to be the best she could be and never settle for less. Even the best of tales have endings….this girl had to say goodbye to her dad. Her one hero, her knight in shining armor, but most importantly her daddy. The dad who use to carry her from her parents bedroom every night to her own room after watching The Lion King. The dad who cheered her on at every sporting event and coached her to be better than before. The dad who welcomed every one of her friends as one of his own. The dad who looked her square in the eye and said “you ready” before walking her down the aisle. The dad who called her his little Tingy Wop.

Growing up, my dad encouraged to express myself in any form my heart desired. I enjoyed and loved to write. I started a novel in 10th grade and my dad always wanted me to get it published because he firmly believed it would’ve been a bestseller. Dads. They always know what’s best for you. 

My dad passed away this weekend after a battle with cancer that his body was not prepared for. I always thought my daddy was invincible. There would never be a day that I wouldn’t be without him. In the back of my mind, I always knew that he wouldn’t be here forever. The circumstances just didn’t fall in our favor. After graduating with my Masters of Science in Criminology, I had to say goodbye to the man who loved his family more than life itself. A giving man who told me to stand out in a crowd instead of trying to fit in. 

One day, I’ll share stories of his amazing legacy with my own children and let them know that they come from greatness. 

To end this tale, when I was about 14 years old my dad introduced me to Khalil Gibran and that was our secret to share. It was his opportunity to teach me on how to be fearless and a certain quote sticks out among them all:

“March on. Do not tarry. To go forward is to move toward perfection. March on, and fear not the thorns, or the sharp stones on life’s path.” -Khalil Gibran

You’re always in my heart daddy. Always.

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17 Comments

  • Reply Trista

    Sevi, I am so sad for you, and yet so proud of you. You are an amazing strong woman, this will only shape you to something greater. His inspiration will live on in you, and you will be even more spectacular. You’re in my heart and your family in my prayers. {{Hugs}}

    May 12, 2014 at 11:12 am
    • Reply Sevi

      Thanks for the kind words Trista. It’s been a difficult time, but I understand that he is in a more peaceful place.

      May 14, 2014 at 12:25 am
      • Reply Nanw Walvoord

        I will always love your sweet Dad for coming to sing to me when he found out I had cancer. That day will definitely be a high light of my life. Love you sweet girl and I am sooo proud of you. So amazing that cancer took his life and I am still here. God definitely left me hear for a purpose….I know one of them is to love my family and extended family which includes you.

        May 10, 2015 at 10:34 am
  • Reply Lisa Jessup

    Beautifully written, Sevi. Love you, precious girl.

    There’s something like a line of gold thread running through a man’s words when he talks to his daughter, and gradually over the years it gets to be long enough for you to pick up in your hands and weave into a cloth that feels like love itself. ~John Gregory Brown

    May 12, 2014 at 2:20 pm
    • Reply Sevi

      That quote is perfection. I love you Momma Lisa! Thank you for all the kind words and checking up on me 🙂

      May 14, 2014 at 12:28 am
  • Reply Kyrra

    What a beautiful tale about a beautiful girl and her clearly amazing daddy. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers during this heartbreaking time. Reading over your last few posts and then reading this, I know that your perseverance super power is going help you through this. I believe that your daddy will always be watching over you, and I’m sure that if you pay attention, he’ll show you how much he loves you and how proud of you he is. You will keep him alive by remembering him and sharing your memories and photos. I might be half way across the country, but I hope that you can feel the great big hugs I’m sending your way.
    xoxo Kyrra

    May 12, 2014 at 5:42 pm
    • Reply Sevi

      Love you Kyrra! I truly couldn’t ask for a better friend to have in my life. I totally feel that virtual hug from up north! <3 you!

      May 14, 2014 at 12:29 am
      • Reply Kyrra

        Ditto. The hugs are always there. <3 you more.

        May 15, 2014 at 9:25 pm
  • Reply bellaramos

    This post is so beautiful and moving. My prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. Sending many hugs your way.

    May 12, 2014 at 11:38 pm
    • Reply Sevi

      Thank you Bella! It’s been a difficult time, but I appreciate all the kind thoughts and prayers.

      May 14, 2014 at 12:30 am
  • Reply Amanda

    I’m so so sorry, Sevi. I hate that you’re having to go through this. It’s obvious that your father was a great man… that legacy will live on in YOU. *hugs*

    May 13, 2014 at 8:57 am
    • Reply Sevi

      Thank you for the sweet words Amanda! His legacy will definitely live on through me, because he was such a huge influence in my life.

      May 14, 2014 at 12:30 am
  • Reply Helene

    Sevi, I read this through tears. I am so so sorry that this happened and I am thinking of you. Know that I am always here to talk- anytime.

    May 13, 2014 at 1:50 pm
    • Reply Sevi

      Thank you Helene! I really appreciate the kind words and you keep me and my family in your thoughts. <3

      May 14, 2014 at 12:32 am
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