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What’s good hair?

India Arie said it best I am not my

Good ol’ O Magazine came in the mail today and emblazoned on the front is Oprah in my power color (orange) and hair galore. My sense of pride swelled and the sheer excitement to relish in what O Magazine had to say about hair was over the moon.

I decided to take the time to answer 5 questions regarding my own natural hair journey that I seem to get all the time:

1. Why did you cut it all off?

You wouldn’t believe how often I get this question regarding the big chop. Edris Nichols makes a bold and truthful statement in O Magazine, “The decision to stop relaxing your hair is overwhelming, but going natural can be like coming out – a positive and life-changing affirmation.” I was too busy letting my hair define me. It was never long or straight enough. It required so much time to tend to and stressed me out to even figure out time to schedule a hair appointment. I finally decided that I wanted to rediscover me. The real me. I needed to grow from being the girl who needed perfect hair to impress people. It was my opportunity to become the woman that could possibly inspire others.

2. Can I touch it?

YES! By all means, but ask first. You wouldn’t believe how scary it is to have someone run their hands through your hair unexpectedly. A little heads up first would be great! African-American ladies get a bad rap for the whole “you can’t put your hands in my hair” vibe. I will be the first to admit that when I was on the creamy crack (aka relaxer or perm), NOBODY could put their hands in my hair. I was spending way too much money on that style and for it to stay perfectly in place. Now I am more than willing to let you run your fingers through this kinky mane of fluffiness. I’ve even been told it feels like the pillow stuffing that you can buy at JoAnn’s.

3. How does your husband feel about the natural hair?

If you haven’t figured it out already, I’m married to a handsome piece of white chocolate (WareBear). He has seen the array of hair styles that I’ve had in past 9 year we’ve been together. There has been days when I would completely breakdown over the hair debacles I was putting myself through. He is a trooper and has seen the good, the bad, and the ugly. I am very fortunate that WareBear has fully embraced my natural hair from the day I chopped all my hair off. He would be more distraught if I relaxed my hair!

Screen Shot 2013-08-12 at 9.49.41 PM4. Why don’t you wear a weave/wig/extensions?

Weaves, wigs, and extensions aren’t my niche. I tried to get my hair braided for the half marathon and it lasted two weeks ($150 down the drain). My scalp needs a lot of moisture and olive oil to keep it from drying out. With weaves, wigs, and extensions my scalp doesn’t get the attention it needs. And it honestly just doesn’t work out for everyone. I choose to wear my natural hair out to empower myself to remain true to the fact that what my hair looks like doesn’t define me. No need to hide it with a weave, wig, or some extensions.

5. Is your afro real?

Very much all my afro! You wouldn’t believe, even with my afro how many people actually still question me about the reality of my afro. It’s all mine, go ahead and give it a tug. I feel more comfortable than ever with my afro; Oprah and my dad said it best “your hair is your crowning glory,” mine just has gotten a little bigger and fluffier over the last 3 years!

There you have it, I am much more than my hair. What I know for sure is that I have never had more confidence in my hair than I do now. As it grows out, I become more empowered with the fact that it’s all mine and I’m blazing an afrolicious path of fabulousness.

Do you have any questions regarding my hair or just hair in general?!?

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  • Reply Helene

    i think it’s so odd that people just start touching your hair, hello!!!! people are crazy

    August 13, 2013 at 9:40 am
    • Reply Sevi

      You wouldn’t believe how often it happens!

      August 13, 2013 at 10:27 am
  • Reply Sarah @ How My World Runs

    I’m thinking I would never ask a stranger if I could touch her hair. I have naturally curly hair, really curly and I have been flat ironing it since 1996. Just since May I decided to try curly after stumbling across a great blog on how to style it. My curls are crazy curly and I’m growing to love them more every day.
    Like you, I thought it defined me and I was embarrassed by it.

    August 13, 2013 at 9:44 am
    • Reply Sevi

      I don’t even get the question to touch it, it’s a shy reach and caress. Which is weird all in itself! Once you find a way to manage the hair, it’s so easy to embrace it!

      August 13, 2013 at 10:30 am
  • Reply Sarah Webb (@iamsarahwebb)

    This is an awesome post. Although, I would never ask, can I touch your hair? That is just odd to me!! But I also would never ask to touch a pregnant lady’s belly, and apparently that is a popular thing to ask someone!

    August 13, 2013 at 10:05 am
    • Reply Sevi

      Thank you!!

      Lol! I request the question because I have had people caress my hair unexpectedly.

      August 13, 2013 at 10:33 am
  • Reply Taylor @ Pink Heels Pink Truck

    Wow…people are the most curious creatures. 😉

    August 13, 2013 at 10:10 am
    • Reply Sevi

      They truly are!

      August 13, 2013 at 10:33 am
  • Reply Whitney

    Love it love it love it. We already know about the creepers touching my hair all the time lol. I also love me some white chocolate. So go ‘head girl!

    August 13, 2013 at 10:24 am
    • Reply Sevi


      It’s like a must do, touching someone’s hair. Oh and I love me some white chocolate!! He makes me happy!

      August 13, 2013 at 10:34 am
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  • Reply Kakers in Wonderland

    I texture my hair and relax one section of my head. I still wont let people touch my hair and when they reach for it, I slap their hand out the way. People be crazy when they see a different type of hair. I’m dying on the white chocolate comment because that’s pretty much what I date as well. I also think that white men have embraced black women with natural hair. I think it’s the smell of the oils.

    August 18, 2013 at 11:26 pm
    • Reply Sevi

      I find myself more apt to letting people touch my hair now, just not unexpectedly. I would much rather someone ask than put their hands in my hair.

      Oh and as for my white chocolate, he is the light of my life. He has definitely embraced the natural hair movement.

      August 19, 2013 at 1:42 pm
  • Reply Nicole @ Treasure Tromp

    oh man, I love this! Although I get so sick of people asking if they can touch my hair. My hair has always been natural although I have been tempted to relax it in the past.

    October 15, 2013 at 3:28 am
    • Reply Sevi

      Thank you! I have grown so accustomed to it now that I am like I prefer that you ask instead of just coming straight up to me and touching it. I wish I would’ve been smart enough to just leave my hair be – oh well, starting over has never been better!

      October 15, 2013 at 10:37 pm
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