Good ol’ O Magazine came in the mail today and emblazoned on the front is Oprah in my power color (orange) and hair galore. My sense of pride swelled and the sheer excitement to relish in what O Magazine had to say about hair was over the moon.
I decided to take the time to answer 5 questions regarding my own natural hair journey that I seem to get all the time:
1. Why did you cut it all off?
You wouldn’t believe how often I get this question regarding the big chop. Edris Nichols makes a bold and truthful statement in O Magazine, “The decision to stop relaxing your hair is overwhelming, but going natural can be like coming out – a positive and life-changing affirmation.” I was too busy letting my hair define me. It was never long or straight enough. It required so much time to tend to and stressed me out to even figure out time to schedule a hair appointment. I finally decided that I wanted to rediscover me. The real me. I needed to grow from being the girl who needed perfect hair to impress people. It was my opportunity to become the woman that could possibly inspire others.
2. Can I touch it?
YES! By all means, but ask first. You wouldn’t believe how scary it is to have someone run their hands through your hair unexpectedly. A little heads up first would be great! African-American ladies get a bad rap for the whole “you can’t put your hands in my hair” vibe. I will be the first to admit that when I was on the creamy crack (aka relaxer or perm), NOBODY could put their hands in my hair. I was spending way too much money on that style and for it to stay perfectly in place. Now I am more than willing to let you run your fingers through this kinky mane of fluffiness. I’ve even been told it feels like the pillow stuffing that you can buy at JoAnn’s.
3. How does your husband feel about the natural hair?
If you haven’t figured it out already, I’m married to a handsome piece of white chocolate (WareBear). He has seen the array of hair styles that I’ve had in past 9 year we’ve been together. There has been days when I would completely breakdown over the hair debacles I was putting myself through. He is a trooper and has seen the good, the bad, and the ugly. I am very fortunate that WareBear has fully embraced my natural hair from the day I chopped all my hair off. He would be more distraught if I relaxed my hair!
Weaves, wigs, and extensions aren’t my niche. I tried to get my hair braided for the half marathon and it lasted two weeks ($150 down the drain). My scalp needs a lot of moisture and olive oil to keep it from drying out. With weaves, wigs, and extensions my scalp doesn’t get the attention it needs. And it honestly just doesn’t work out for everyone. I choose to wear my natural hair out to empower myself to remain true to the fact that what my hair looks like doesn’t define me. No need to hide it with a weave, wig, or some extensions.
5. Is your afro real?
Very much all my afro! You wouldn’t believe, even with my afro how many people actually still question me about the reality of my afro. It’s all mine, go ahead and give it a tug. I feel more comfortable than ever with my afro; Oprah and my dad said it best “your hair is your crowning glory,” mine just has gotten a little bigger and fluffier over the last 3 years!
There you have it, I am much more than my hair. What I know for sure is that I have never had more confidence in my hair than I do now. As it grows out, I become more empowered with the fact that it’s all mine and I’m blazing an afrolicious path of fabulousness.
Do you have any questions regarding my hair or just hair in general?!?