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I’m Not Bossy, I’m the Boss!

This has been sitting in a Word document on my laptop for a while, just eating away at my soul and everything that I stand up for.

It happened a while back, but let me set the groundwork for you. I was at a blogger event and speaking with a lady; she was nice, welcoming, and the conversation was great.

Before I knew it the conversation started to venture into what we both did for a living. No big deal, I’m very transparent that my blog is a lifestyle blog and my day job is far from social media, marketing, and/or PR. I kindly gave her the brief career spill that I have formulated that attracts the least amount of questions, that way I don’t have to field the uncomfortable silence that accompanies the explanation of what I do.

The question and behavior that happened next has been weighing so heavy on my shoulders.

“So you aren’t your own boss?”

In my head the following thoughts are going on, but my face had a blank expression….Excuse me? What was that? I’m not quite sure I understand your question.

She then proceed to state – “You work for other people.” 

Once I said yes, I do have a chain of command that I report to – she quickly ended the conversation and walked away.

Little did I know that this would be an integral teaching moment on this blog.

This is predominately aimed at all of the women out there who are hustling and working hard to achieve their goals. Gentleman, feel free to apply this to your own situation as you see fit. It’s about to get real.

All too often we get caught up in this obscure meaning of #girlboss since we’ve all read the book (and you know we’ve all read it or taken an instagram picture of it sitting on your pristine desk). If I remember correctly, Sophia Amoruso never stated that you had to be your own boss in order to cultivate your revolution. Not once did she mention that we all had to be in fashion, PR, marketing, or a plethora of other independent roles to be your own boss.

The #GIRLBOSS who is willing to do a job that is below her—and above—is the one who stands out. Above, you ask? Yes. Sometimes you’ll find an opportunity to step in when your boss is out, or just swamped, and show your worth. You’re as smart as she is, anyway, so figure it out as you go and make it look like child’s play. It’s that attitude, and behavior, that will get you ahead. 
― Sophia Amoruso, #GIRLBOSS

If we have this mentality that one person isn’t a boss in their own right, how are we suppose to support each other? Better yet, who are you to pass judgement on those who do work a regular 9 to 5 with a boss? Do you know our roles within our careers? Are you signing our paychecks? Have you spent countless hours studying and developing skills to help us advance to the next step in our careers?

Didn’t think so. So take your lackluster definition of what a boss is and check yourself. Take a close look at all the bosses that working jobs in corporate America, government agencies, or even those stay at home parents tackling their own bosshood in badass ways.

Who’s the boss now?

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  • Reply Denise

    “take your lackluster definition of what a boss is and check yourself” AMEN! I am all for people following their true passion, no matter what field it’s in. I respect anybody who loves what they do and gives it their best. You already know that I think your job is super cool, plus you’re maintaining an awesome blog on top of that. Plus a social life! And snap tutorials. You’re definitely a boss in more ways than one. Man, the things that come out of people’s mouths these days…

    May 15, 2015 at 9:04 pm
  • Reply Valery Brennan

    Ugh I STILL cannot believe this happened to you. 1) What kind of rude, condescending human says that to someone else? 2) Since when is working for yourself the only way? It would be literally impossible for society to function if we all tried to work for ourselves.

    That lady needs to have a seat.

    May 16, 2015 at 3:49 pm
  • Reply Heather

    I can’t believe someone said that to you, like being your own boss is the only way to go? That’s crazy! I love the book #girlboss mostly because it made me rethink the way I approach my current job and think about what I want for my career. I don’t think I’ll ever own my own business or be my own boss but that doesn’t mean I’m not worthy of anything. I also happen to think you are crushing it at life 🙂

    May 18, 2015 at 2:23 pm
  • Reply Kyrra

    Wow. Just… wow. I wouldn’t have even been able to respond to that lady. Seriously? Who the hell does she think she is, and what gives her the right to judge you at all!?

    Also, I feel like your final line of this entry should go “Who’s the boss now, BITCH!?” Because all I could think of when I read that line was Jesse Pinkman saying “YEAH, BITCH!” hahaha

    Love you!

    May 19, 2015 at 9:55 pm
  • Reply Cris

    What the.. how.. who? I can’t even. Who in their right minds would say something like that… or even think of something like that??? I happen to think you’re one heck of a #girlboss!

    May 19, 2015 at 11:14 pm
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