This has been sitting in a Word document on my laptop for a while, just eating away at my soul and everything that I stand up for.
It happened a while back, but let me set the groundwork for you. I was at a blogger event and speaking with a lady; she was nice, welcoming, and the conversation was great.
Before I knew it the conversation started to venture into what we both did for a living. No big deal, I’m very transparent that my blog is a lifestyle blog and my day job is far from social media, marketing, and/or PR. I kindly gave her the brief career spill that I have formulated that attracts the least amount of questions, that way I don’t have to field the uncomfortable silence that accompanies the explanation of what I do.
The question and behavior that happened next has been weighing so heavy on my shoulders.
“So you aren’t your own boss?”
In my head the following thoughts are going on, but my face had a blank expression….Excuse me? What was that? I’m not quite sure I understand your question.
She then proceed to state – “You work for other people.”
Once I said yes, I do have a chain of command that I report to – she quickly ended the conversation and walked away.
Little did I know that this would be an integral teaching moment on this blog.
This is predominately aimed at all of the women out there who are hustling and working hard to achieve their goals. Gentleman, feel free to apply this to your own situation as you see fit. It’s about to get real.
All too often we get caught up in this obscure meaning of #girlboss since we’ve all read the book (and you know we’ve all read it or taken an instagram picture of it sitting on your pristine desk). If I remember correctly, Sophia Amoruso never stated that you had to be your own boss in order to cultivate your revolution. Not once did she mention that we all had to be in fashion, PR, marketing, or a plethora of other independent roles to be your own boss.
The #GIRLBOSS who is willing to do a job that is below her—and above—is the one who stands out. Above, you ask? Yes. Sometimes you’ll find an opportunity to step in when your boss is out, or just swamped, and show your worth. You’re as smart as she is, anyway, so figure it out as you go and make it look like child’s play. It’s that attitude, and behavior, that will get you ahead.
― Sophia Amoruso, #GIRLBOSS
If we have this mentality that one person isn’t a boss in their own right, how are we suppose to support each other? Better yet, who are you to pass judgement on those who do work a regular 9 to 5 with a boss? Do you know our roles within our careers? Are you signing our paychecks? Have you spent countless hours studying and developing skills to help us advance to the next step in our careers?
Didn’t think so. So take your lackluster definition of what a boss is and check yourself. Take a close look at all the bosses that working jobs in corporate America, government agencies, or even those stay at home parents tackling their own bosshood in badass ways.
Who’s the boss now?