I wasn’t planning on writing this post. Believe me, I had no intention to even think about writing this post. While transparency has been huge with my Simply Mommy Chronicles, I’ve done a lot to exercise my right to privacy on this journey. Everything that I share is on my own terms. With nearly 8000 followers combined across my social media followings, this has been an experience that has taken me some time to really open up.
I didn’t share my first real bump photo until 20 weeks. Since then, I have really begun to blossom into this pregnancy and sharing only what I am comfortable with. With 9 weeks left, it’s becoming more and more of a reality that she’ll be here. Not only will she be here, the demand to see her has become increasingly real.
Why is privacy important, to begin with?
With technology at the tip of our hands, we are constantly connected in some form. There is no escaping the consistent updates of friends, family, or celebrities as you go throughout your day to day. Frequently we are invited into the lives of others in more personal ways than we ever could’ve imagined 10 years, heck even 5 years ago. The instant gratification of hearing news before it actually becomes “breaking news” is a reality. Even when we don’t want it to be.
The definition of privacy is:
the state or condition of being free from being observed or disturbed by other people
the state of being free from public attention (source)
Why do these definitions matter? Every message we post can be seen in cryptic manners that have people instantly start to question our intentions. We’ve lost the sense of protecting our own privacy with our constant need to overshare. Privacy is important in those situations when you just need a reprieve from those prying eyes. When you just don’t want to hear the public opinion because you need to work through your own emotions.
Why I’m sticking to the privacy of our daughter?
As I stated earlier, I’ve been insanely private on social media about details of our wee lil unicorn. If you’ve been following this story over the weeks you would understand that I didn’t want to announce in the first place. Opening up on the journey has been an experience, but as the time dwindles away I can’t help my feelings. The intense need to protect and cherish her has come back. Everything else in my life is so open for public consumption, it really draws me to keep her protected from it.
I want to enjoy the simple moments of becoming a mom and bonding with her outside of the public eye. Simply put, once she arrives David and I have made the decision not to instantly share any photos of her online. We are reserving the right to allow our closest friends and family who have been a part of our journey to celebrate her. It’s nothing against others, but this is a special and unique experience for us. Each passing day we are dealing with the emotions that as she gets older, we won’t be able to protect her all the time.
These feelings have come out in both my public and private social media forums. I have dealt with various emotions from quite a few people. The passive aggressive comments don’t even bother me anymore. Nobody dictates what I share with the world, even if they want to huff and get mad at the situation. If David and I decide to wait a month before posting any photos of our little girl that’s our decision.