Last night I had happy hour with two of my blog besties and the conversation of my friend dynamics came up briefly. You see I’ve always prided myself with the diversity of my friends. Growing up there was a lot of times that I often felt left out and isolated for a variety of reasons. As I’ve gotten older, it’s dawned on me that the drama is no longer necessary. The small stuff isn’t worth sweating and making a big deal over.
I’ll be the first to admit that these days I do not have the patience and/or tolerance for people I considered “friends.” Things have changed dramatically since losing my dad. Over the last few weeks, I have been lucky enough to have some of the most profound conversations and deep belly laughs with individuals who care about being in my life. With these same conversations I’ve been fortunate to actually reevaluate those who I’ve always considered my friends and realize that they aren’t really a factor in my life.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’m ok with that. I’m ok with taking a step back and looking at the bigger picture. Quality is much more important than quantity. This is something I’ve known for ages and will continue to live by. It makes much more sense to have 15 close friends than 100 who just show up for the party (oh and my life is a party).
As my birthday creeps up closer and closer, I always tend to become more philosophical on one aspect of my life. This year it just happens to be the people who I want to surround my life with. With that, I’m picking people who bring light into my life. Those who are willing to understand that sometimes I just need a little helping hand! The people that I can honestly say are worth the effort and think the same of me. I’m holding myself and my core circle to high standards.
There is a magnet in your heart that will attract true friends. That magnet is unselfishness, thinking of others first; when you learn to live for others, they will live for you. – Paramahansa Yogananda
My goal is to learn to live for others, because they right ones will be more than willing to love for me.